I know what you’re thinking.
My husband is selfish, or he doesn’t love me enough. Or maybe that he puts himself ahead of me. Trust me, nothing could be further from the truth.
My husband spends a lot of time with me, makes me dinner, includes me in almost everything and even brings me coffee at work. He does things he doesn’t enjoy doing, because he knows it will make me happy. He sends me text messages throughout the day and checks in on me. He takes care of me when I’m sick. He randomly surprises me with dates and gifts. He is a wonderful husband and he definitely puts me above himself.
But here’s the thing: I don’t come first in his life…and I’m okay with that. Because he doesn’t come first in my life either.
In order for us to have a marriage that we both want, the one who needs to be first is God. Everything we do, everything we say, everything we accomplish is all about God.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Matthew 6:33
In order to have a marriage that is Godly, in order to raise Godly kids and to be truly successful, God has to come first.
That means if my husband is reading his Bible or praying, I need to leave him alone. That means if I want my husband to do something that isn’t Biblical, my husband needs to say “Nope. I am not doing that.” That means the same thing for me. I am God’s girl first.
“If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple.”
Luke 14:26
If we put God first in our marriage and our lives, its only going to benefit our relationship more.
The Bible is very clear on how we are treat others, especially the people closest to us. He wants us to serve others and to be like Him. The only way we can do that is to take up our cross and follow Jesus first;to wake up in the morning and think “How can I serve God today?” and that will surely be followed by,”How can I serve my husband today?” and “How can I bless the people around me?”
Our flesh doesn’t want us to put God first and it definitely doesn’t come easily, but it is truly the best thing for you, your spouse and your children.
So, how do we do it? How do we put God first? How do we make sure we’re spending time with Him and living our lives to serve and please Him?
The answer is pretty simple: The Holy Spirit and The Bible.
“But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.”
John 14:26
The Holy Spirit is our helper. He is the one who will transform us from the inside out.
When you’re being selfish and putting yourself first, or wanting to disobey God, the voice that puts you in check is The Holy Spirit. He gives us power in many ways and one of those is remembering to put God first, then other people, before ourselves. The Holy Spirit is the one who gives us wisdom. But the number one thing we need to practice, in order to put God first, is to read His Word. Reading The Bible daily is so important in our walk with God. Putting the things of The Lord into our minds and hearts will help give us the desire to live for Him.
It isn’t easy, but God wants to be number one in our lives…and He deserves it.
I’m so glad God is at the center of my marriage;I wouldn’t want it any other way.
So yes, my husband doesn’t put me first and I am so glad.
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